Perspective and empathy

Every event I go to, I try my very best to embrace and gauge the atmosphere appropriately. Clearly a formal diamond wedding anniversary celebration will have a different ambience than that of an 18th birthday party. Empathising with the group of guests I perform to and trying to understand how I would feel if I were interrupted in a conversation, is something I am always aware of. I pride myself on having a polite but confident approach. Certainly, when performing at academic conferences, I interrupt conversations that are deep and meaningful and I am mindful of this. I also try my best to understand how the orangiser of the event must be feeling. Apprehensive, with lots of things to remember and organise.
Weddings are no exception and are among the best events to perform at. However, it wasn’t until I actually got married myself that I could truly understand how people feel on their wedding day.
Typically for a wedding, I recommend some magic during any drinks reception, followed by some table magic in between the courses of the wedding breakfast. 9 time out of 10 I will perform for the head table after the main course and in the lead up to the speeches. The logic is that they are more relaxed and settled by the time I get to their table. However, on my own wedding day the 3 people making speeches (myself included) were nervous. Would I have liked to have seen a magician at this point when I am concerned about remembering certain anecdotes and thank you’s for the day? Probably not.
I have learnt a lot from the experience of organising my own wedding day and I genuinely feel I understand the day and industry better than before. I guess it’s all part of the experience as I strive to improve my performance and ability as a magician.